The All Natural Period. Period.

The all natural Period. Period. 


How to go with the flow.


What’s up with the Menstrual Cup?

I could go on…


Let me paint a picture for you…

Jordan has been out of town coaching a soccer camp and I have been good cop and bad cop while he’s gone. It’s draining.

I had one of those days, (please tell me you’ve been there) where I’m just wiped out. I was laying on the floor while the kids played on and around me. I was probably some sleeping monster or something and I probably actually fell asleep for a few minutes their while they played with my face and hair. Time had been trickling by so slowly, but then….it hit us. It was dinner time. They were hit with the hunger bus so hard, it almost knocked the wind out of them. 

I get up, and start a game plan…Waffles. Captian Fun Mom here, making waffles for dinner. The children love me. I love waffles. We’re a happy bunch! 

Then, Aunt Flow came. Like a thief in the night, sent to take my fun away. 

I’m normally prepared. I have my tools, I can manage. This time though, in the midst of the move, I left my DivaCup at the lake house. I don’t know how. I never forget it. It’s one of my key survival tools. So, you know what I did? I put a diaper on. Do you need me to repeat that? A diaper. We have some disposables and I laid myself down like a toddler and tried to get this thing situated and non chalant so I could go out for supplies. 

In my family, we call this a “Tough Moment”

“Mommy is having a tough moment so we’re going to need some teamwork here guys.” 

I load them up, zip over to the lake, get my DivaCup and then get back in a period (no pun intended) of 20 minutes.

The night went on into some more “tough moments” like when I let Lila make the waffle batter herself and she dusted the counter and floor with flour. Or how I helped her salvage the recipe while on the phone and dropped my phone in the batter. It came out looking ready to dive into some hot oil for dinner. I’m thinking I’d call it deepfriPhone? Or while I listened to my linebackers trapped in child bodies beg for food while we waited for three minutes between each waffle. Or like when I frisbee threw each waffle to the children and scarfed my own like a troll and we ate like a pack of ravenous wolves while we waited another terrible three minutes for the next round of waffles to burn our mouths on. Tough moments friends. We’ve all had them. We survived, Lila still thought it was fun to make waffles and we all loved each other and had  a smooth bedtime. 

Why do I tell this story? Because It’s funny and I want to and because it’s a segue into some REAL TALK. 

I shared an article on my Facebook page this week about a model who lost her leg due to complications with a tampon. A tampon. Talk about tough moments. You see, as a culture, we have a tendency to take things as they are and not ask questions. We see it in some hot topics like infant circumcision, medical birth control, and over the counter medicine. Well, about seven years ago, I was in college and I was encouraged to go against what I had accepted as the norm. I got over the ice factor, grew up and bought my very first DivaCup


A DivaCup is a reusable silicon menstral cup that you insert, empty, wash and re-insert. You boil it and sanitize it after every cycle and use it again the next month. It’s so hard to change your paradigm about something like this, especially when it feels so personal, but I would encourage you to at least try. 

You see, our body needs moisture. It’s what keeps bacteria at bay and keeps our bodies running smoothly. When we use a tampon, it takes the must needed moisture away and leaves our bodies struggling to maintain status quo. It also can be the cause of scary side effects like TSS (toxic shock syndrome). A DivaCup offers up to twelve hours of leak free protection and works with your body instead of against it. Once you get used to using it, it’s not a big deal at all. It saves you money each year and you don’t have to worry about having supplies on hand, or shoving a diaper in your pants (unless you leave it somewhere like I did. Don’t do that) 

While we’re going there, there are some other things we have a tendency to do during our “flow” that is detrimental to our health, and I would encourage you to look at some alternatives. 

Using over the counter pain medicine is a dangerous habit. True, they may not be habit forming or addictive, but they aren’t safe to use regularly. I believe tylenol is only safe to use two days in a row before there is a risk of damaging your liver. Other pain meds are also blood thinner and aren’t smart to use while menstruating. I’d encourage you to look for some more natural approaches. Feel free to message me to ask me about what I do. 

Going to nature to help us with mother nature just makes sense to me. I feel like the less we intervene the better. Taking control of your flow and learning about your body is so empowering and necessary. 

I know this is uncomfortable to talk about, so feel free to message me with any questions you have. Every woman is unique and different, so it seems natural to try some different things. Even if it means stepping outside of the norm and your comfort zone. Let me know if you need help or more information and contact me to get wholesale prices on some essential oils to get you started in your journey. 

For my local ladies, I’d be happy to meet with you and chat, and even let you borrow my oils if you’d like to try them. Get at me 😉

Thanks for hanging in there for the real talk ladies. I swear I’ll post a recipe about butter this week to make you feel better. 

To find out which oils I use, message me. I’d be glad to help you. 

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Medical Disclosure: The information included on this post is based only on my own research and personal experience. It is not intended nor implied to be a substitute for professional medical advice. None of the opinions expressed here are meant to diagnose or treat any disease or illness. You should always consult your healthcare provider to determine the appropriateness of the information for your own situation or if you have any questions regarding a medical condition or treatment plan. 



  1. Kirsten says:

    Love the real talk, lady. I read that article you posted and totally stressed. Just as mike how many different websites I left open on all the various period topics I researched after that. The problem is I tried the Diva Cup. It was incredibly uncomfortable for me (because of my anatomy?) and I can’t use a menstrual cup. I actually cried the day I finally admitted defeat. So naturally I went back to the standard solution.

    I just want to leave this comment here so in case other women have tried the cup and it didn’t work out or are simply freaked out by it which a lot of women are… There is another way too.

    In my research this week I found that organic cotton tampons exist and are actually risk free. There are quite a few brands out there and most of them come without applicators but seventh generation makes one with an applicator. I found one easily in my natural food store and tried them out for the first time today. Game changer. It’s the comfort of what I have known and used my whole life without risking my life.

    Do some research, I don’t think a lot of people know about safe tampons. But they exist.

    • DearDarla says:

      Thank you! I might add that as a clause in the post if you don’t mind and link to the 7th gen brand (I’ve used their disposable diapers and laundry soap too) Thank you for adding this comment! I hope others find it helpful.

  2. Victoria says:

    Hi! Thank you for bringing up a subject most of us just grin and bear… There are risks involved when you’re using products that affect your hormones, and it’s no joke. I’ve had hormonal issues ever since using birth control for a mere 6 months in college! Phtalates and urea and petrolatum – oh my! These are in SO many beauty products, too, and majorly affect menstrual regularity!

    Anyway, wanted also to add that Amazon sells organic tampons, which is a bonus because you don’t have to go get ’em at a store. I loathe buying feminine products from a guy! I’m a child. 🙂

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