Our Life Begins

All eyes were on me to make the call. Do I want to risk all of the hard work everyone put into the perfect day? Everything we’re doing is a risk. The odds are against us but we believe we can beat the odds. This wedding wouldn’t happen at all if we were afraid to take a leap of faith to begin with. Our incredible photographer, who came with almost no notice (Angelica Thomas), was there and ready. Our videographer was all set and ready. Everyone was here. It was time. “Start the ceremony. I’m getting married now.” IMG_2476 IMG_2440 The music was cued and Explosions In The Sky rang in the background. Our family members looked amazing and were each seated. Our mothers each dropped coloring into a small mason jar of water. Our adorable ring bearers piled in the wagon and Jacob and Thomas pulled and pushed them down. Then our wedding party walked down the patio, two by two, all the way down the aisle. They were all so stunning. IMG_2493 My Dad. He is so strong. He is so brave. He is so prayerful and patient. He looked me in the eyes and reminded me how much he loved me. I hooked my arm around his and we walked together. It was a moment and we both knew it. We walked slowly, we were in no hurry for it to end. The sun came out as the tiny mist of rain sprinkled down. The umbrella that my Dad held was handed off. There would be no storm. Mark prayed for us and my Daddy gave me away. IMG_2506 IMG_2511 IMG_2497             I held Jordan’s hand and gazed into his eyes. We made it. This is what we have been waiting for. Mark then began by saying, “God is the author of love.” This was our story. It felt like he was speaking to us at a coffee shop on a Sunday morning. He spoke about how he wanted our love to inspire others and how he hoped our parenting would encourage other parents. It was beautiful. Mark didn’t even flinch when a jetski moaned by doing power turns or when a biplane landed on the water behind us. He just stayed focused on getting us married. IMG_2562             My dad, on the other hand, stood up and stared the jet skier, our neighbor, down until he left. Later, I found out my Uncle Eddy walked across the creek and knocked on his door. Uncle Eddy is probably the most Italian of my uncles and if you didn’t know him, you’d be threatened when he said, “We are having a wedding over there, see? We aren’t going to have any more problems, are we?” We didn’t.             It was time to exchange vows. We wrote them ourselves and hadn’t shared them with each other yet. We ended each of ours with the traditional vows. There were giggles all around when we vowed to be together in sickness and health.

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“Darla Jean, our miracle rests in the path we have chosen together…”

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Jordan Robert Innis, It took only moments for you to captivate me…”

                           

It was time for the rings. Symbolic of the eternal weight of our words.

It was time for the rings. Symbolic of the eternal weight of our words.

            We walked over and poured a little of each jar of water into a bigger jar. Two becoming one. Two vibrant individual colors joining together to create a beautiful color of it’s own.

            “I think I’ve figured it out, we need to be together. Like the shore and the sea. We are not one thing, we’re joined here together. My Ocean and Me. “ Jon Forman, In my Arms played in the background

“I think I’ve figured it out, we need to be together. Like the shore and the sea. We are not one thing, we’re joined here together. My Ocean and Me. “ Jon Forman, In my Arms played in the background

            Then our marriage mentors, Lynn and Russ Robinson, prayed for us. That God would be the joy, strength and peace that we would come to embrace. That God’s grace would be like a gentle rain on us. That others would pray for us when we came to mind. It was touching and so meaningful to have them stand alongside us and make us feel strong.

As you can see, we aren't alone.

As you can see, we aren’t alone.

            After that, it was time to kiss the bride and pronounced us man and wife. IMG_2606 IMG_2619               Sigur Ros’ Inni Mer Syngur Vitleysingur played as we were announced, for the first time ever, Mr. and Mrs. Jordan Innis. The song stired joy and excitement as we walked passed our guests and went to the back of the house. Our wedding party and immediate family met us there.             I can’t quite explain what it felt like back there. A combination of accomplishment and relief. We did it. We hugged everyone and probably would have been content to end it right then and there. Everything we had gone through to get to this point was worth it. We were family now. Angelica captured the moments with photos. 

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This is the only photo I got of just me and Lisa that day, but I think it captures it. Relief, joy, camaraderie, friendship, and love.

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Father and Son. Buddies for Life.

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Always will be Daddy’s girl.

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Me and my Heika. Without her….I couldn’t.

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My sweet and kindred spirit. My petite and powerful friend. Oh Tiff… you.

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TIna Marie. I look up to this amazing woman so much. What an honor it was that she would stand with me. She showed so much enthusiasm and belief in us.

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My ocean and Me.

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our love.

IMG_2673                               It was time to party, well in our own way. Jordan and I decided to have a dry wedding. Jordan was only 20 and I was pregnant. If we were going to have a dry wedding, we weren’t going to make people dance. We’re considerate like that. Our reception was a sendoff. The speeches were powerful and meaningful. The moments were precious. We were surrounded by so much love. We felt unstoppable. 

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we had glued tiny buttons and pearls to little bobby pins for Leticia to weave into my hair. She’s an artist.

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our bonus family, sadly minus Ali, who was probably setting up for the reception like a rock star friend. We love these people and are so thankful for them.

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Jordan’s side of the family all came. It meant a lot to have them there.

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My circus family that I love to pieces. Xoxoxo

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“Who are we?”

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My new family. They’re so good looking, I used to suspect that they were vampires. They’re amazing and have accepted me as their own. Lisa has grown to be my best friend and someone I know I can go to with anything. Love you all. 

 

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Look at these beautiful women! I love them.

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Stud muffins.

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These guys pulled through for Jordan and are always there for him to go to. Guys just need guys.

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we could have just collapsed with joy.

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My amazing grandparents. 60 plus years of marriage and they are still full of strength and love and laughter. I wish my other grandparents could have been there. It was my grandma Owen’s birthday the next day. They were missed, but not forgotten. 

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Don and Sharon. We were so blessed to have them there together. Sharon is a secret bonus I received from marrying Jordan. She is fun and quirky and took me right under her wing as her granddaughter. I love her and we can talk each others ears off about pretty much anything. Boo and Lillian, Jordan’s other grandparents, have passed as well. They weren’t there but they were there in spirit. Their strength was present in Dale’s eyes and Lillian’s name continues on in Lilliana.                 

                                              The tent looked amazing. Dale, Lisa and my parents were amazing and this wouldn’t have been possible without them. My mom organized all of the food and her friends came to serve our guests. It was perfect. The tent looked enchanted. It was exactly what I wanted and I didn’t even know it. A fallen oak from the woods was sliced by chainsaw into chargers and centerpieces. Our little jams were covered in burlap and stamped as sweet and simple wedding favors. Love, hope, faith, friends and family were all things we valued and so they were the names of the tables our loved ones were seated at. Tina decorated a beautiful bench for us and freshly cut branches and spring wildflowers draped down in front of us. Lace on lace on lace. Buttons on string. Mason jar lanterns. Twinkling tea lights. Pinch me. I’m dreaming.  IMG_2254 IMG_2250 IMG_2249 IMG_2248 IMG_2247 IMG_2245 IMG_2244 IMG_2243 IMG_2241 IMG_2240                                                                                       Mark, our officiant, doubled as our MC. He announced us all and we took our seat. Fun fact: Melissa Heika was announced as Heika. I love that. It shows that a friend announced us and that he knew I probably wouldn’t know who was being called out if he said Melissa. Andy cued all of the music and perfectly chose William Fitzsimmons After All to play.              Now’s a good time to mention that we’re cryers. We’re not sad, just sappy. It really showed through on this day in the ceremony and speeches.  IMG_2486 IMG_2490 IMG_2504 IMG_2932 IMG_2958 IMG_3023                     Cue the speeches, AKA: Cry Fest 2011

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“I used to run home from school to be the first one to hold you”

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“We’ve had our fights, but in the end, you were just looking out for me”

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“Never go a day with a dull edge…”

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“I’m honored to stand as your brother…”

       

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“Everyone knows how special Darla is to me…” “The God that created you WILL take care of you…” “Lilliana is coming into the picture and they love and cherish her already…”

                                           

We cut our beautiful cake and it was time to dance.

We cut our beautiful cake and it was time to dance.

                Now is a good time to also mention that we are excellent dancers. Nobody can do the rock and sway like us. Throw in the crying while we danced, I’m surprised we didn’t go viral on youtube.

I'll make you mine. I'll make you mine if you would have me. With a silver ring that will hug you tight, Our life begins. Our life begins with this. I'll prove my love. I'll prove my love if you would let me. Over and over and over again. We'll bring a child. We'll bring a child into this world We'll say the one thing Everyone should hear: You were meant for amazing things.

I’ll make you mine.
I’ll make you mine if you would have me.
With a silver ring that will hug you tight,
Our life begins.
Our life begins with this.
I’ll prove my love.
I’ll prove my love if you would let me.
Over and over and over again.
We’ll bring a child.
We’ll bring a child into this world
We’ll say the one thing
Everyone should hear:
You were meant for amazing things. Umbrellas by Sleeping at Last

"Just because everything's changing Doesn't mean it's never been this way before All you can do is try to know who your friends are As you head off to the war Pick a star on the dark horizon and follow the light You'll come back when it's over No need to say goodbye You'll come back when it's over No need to say goodbye" The Call, Regina Spektor

“Just because everything’s changing
Doesn’t mean it’s never been this way before
All you can do is try to know who your friends are
As you head off to the war
Pick a star on the dark horizon and follow the light
You’ll come back when it’s over
No need to say goodbye
You’ll come back when it’s over
No need to say goodbye” The Call, Regina Spektor

Then we called my brother up. Let's be honest, he was giving me away too.  "Now we're back to the beginning It's just a feeling and no one knows yet But just because they can't feel it too Doesn't mean that you have to forget Let your memories grow stronger and stronger 'Til they're before your eyes You'll come back when they call you No need to say goodbye You'll come back when they call you No need to say goodbye"

Then we called my brother up. Let’s be honest, he was giving me away too.
“Now we’re back to the beginning
It’s just a feeling and no one knows yet
But just because they can’t feel it too
Doesn’t mean that you have to forget
Let your memories grow stronger and stronger
‘Til they’re before your eyes
You’ll come back when they call you
No need to say goodbye
You’ll come back when they call you
No need to say goodbye”

This was beautiful. Watching back on the video, Lisa patted Jordan's back as they swayed. Just like every mother pats her little baby. And he'll always be "little Joey" to her.  "May you grow up to be righteous  May you grow up to be true May you always know the truth  And see the lights surrounding you May you always be courageous  Stand upright and be strong May you stay forever young Forever young, forever young  May you stay forever young."

This was beautiful. Watching back on the video, Lisa patted Jordan’s back as they swayed. Just like every mother pats her little baby. And he’ll always be “little Joey” to her.
“May you grow up to be righteous
May you grow up to be true
May you always know the truth
And see the lights surrounding you
May you always be courageous
Stand upright and be strong
May you stay forever young”

                                                                                              The sun was beginning to set and the evening was drawing to a close. It worked. We were married. We could start our lives together knowing that we were doing our best to live right. We were preparing our nest. A little bird was on the way and she would be welcomed into a life full of all of this love. This was not only our true love and commitment to each other. It was our promise to her. And she is meant for amazing things. 

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We were sent of with love, tears, farewells and bubbles

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The music crescendoed (Glosoli, Sigur Ros)as we drove off into the sunset. It was a dream. It was just the beginning…

A special thanks to: Our photographer, Angelica Thomas. She was truly amazing as you can see. Ask her to shoot your next event. You’ll love it. http://angelicathomas.com  Again, none of this would have been possible without our amazing parents. Thank you for always supporting us. Tina Marie, you are so gifted. You put so much work and heart into our wedding to make it a dream for all of us. We can’t thank you enough.  All of our friends and family who were working behind the scenes to give us our dream wedding, thank you, thank you, thank you. 

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